Cover image courtesy of Claire Rietveld.
A girthy edition of Elust for your reading pleasure.
Lushense, Penis Extenders: The Complete Guide to Types, Benefits and the Best Brands in 2026
I had no idea there were quite so many varieties of penis extender. Rods, vacuum cups, belts, weights and more.
Carrie Young, Spanking 101: A Beginner's Guide to Spanking & Impact Play
I like the distinction between stingy and thuddy. I definitely appreciate how much difference the choice of implement makes, although a good hand can be a wonderfully effective implement all by itself.
Sex Toy DB, QUTOYS Dongkinger Replica Dildo Review: That’s a Lot of Dong
Nearly 800 grams and roughly the weight of a bottle of wine!
Hellga, Fingerbang
My own contribution this month. Sometimes a gentleman with strong hands, nicely trimmed nails and the ability to actually listen to instructions is exactly what a lady needs.
Sandra, My New PortaLite Massage Table
A massage table strong enough for two people is a very sensible investment when naked body slides are on the menu. Sandra clearly has her priorities right.
Sex Worker Search, Courtesan Finder Interview
Privacy and data minimisation need to be designed into platforms from the beginning rather than bolted on afterwards. I particularly liked the discussion around verification and the awkward fact that "we delete your data afterwards" still requires workers to trust that this actually happens.
Mx Valentina, The dominatrix as life coach
There is a lot of truth in the idea that domination can reveal things about people that ordinary conversation never will. Boundaries, shame, desire, discipline and surrender can tell you an enormous amount about someone.
Milady, Atsuko Kudo Latex Catsuit
Oh Milady, I completely understand the temptation. Made-to-measure Atsuko Kudo latex is decadent enough already, and then you discover they can add a three-way through-crotch zip...
Teena Laurent, Six Hours with a Nerd
Nerds really are underrated. Give someone permission to talk enthusiastically about the thing they genuinely love and suddenly the shy person sitting opposite you becomes considerably more interesting.
Yufi Saurus, Staying true to yourself even when you are a total weirdo
Trying to appeal to absolutely everyone is a good way of becoming memorable to nobody. The peculiar bits of our personalities are often exactly what make the right people stop scrolling.
Lyra Bergman, What does “independent escort” mean? And why book independent escorts?
Independence gives us the freedom to decide how we present ourselves, who we see and what kind of experience we offer. Lyra also makes a good point that agencies inevitably select for their own particular aesthetic, while independents can be gloriously individual.
Sierra Sorren, The Lost Art of Lingering
"The courses mark the passing of time. The conversation is what makes you forget it’s passing at all." That captures the pleasure of a long dinner date beautifully. Some encounters really shouldn't be rushed.
Valerie Valtesse, On limerence & limoncello
This is a fascinating look at what happens when the boundaries between companion and lover start becoming fuzzy. Tiny changes to the usual rules can suddenly leave an enormous amount of room for hope, expectation and confusion.
Oz Bigdownunder, A Duo with Mistress Jessica and Mr and Mrs Habibi
What an elaborate evening. I rather like that beneath all the kink and excitement, Oz keeps coming back to communication and Mrs Habibi being able to set the pace and say exactly what she wanted.
Simone Francis, Total Submission to the Riding Crop
Short, atmospheric and wonderfully focused on anticipation. Sometimes seeing the implement and waiting for what comes next is every bit as important as the impact itself.
Raffaello Palandri, The Erotic Threshold: Tantra, Sapiosexuality, and the Intelligence of Almost
I liked the idea that attraction to someone's mind depends partly on never completely possessing or understanding it. If another person can still surprise you, there is always something left to discover.
Morgan Destera, Sex Toys – Anal Beads
"Do NOT yank them out like you are trying to start a lawnmower" may be one of the more memorable pieces of sex-toy advice I've encountered. Brief, practical and impossible to misunderstand.
Femina Viva, Musings on Life, Work, Hypocrisy and the Toxic Sisterhood
A very personal and angry piece about solidarity, hypocrisy and who actually stands beside marginalised people when doing so becomes uncomfortable. The challenge to examine whether our principles extend beyond our own interests particularly stuck with me.
Liz Black X, Is This The Ultimate Heavy Duty Sleeve? QUTOYS Hole-y Cow Masturbator Review
Another toy for people who apparently look at the words "heavy duty" and "extreme girth" and think, yes please, that's the one. Liz certainly gives it a thorough examination.
The History of BDSM, Le jeu avec le feu (Playing with Fire)(1975): The Celluloid Dungeon
The most interesting part for me is Peter's problem with the film's tone. A supposed farce works rather differently when the men appear to be enjoying the joke while the women don't seem to be in on it. Context can change enormously in fifty years.